Sabina's Inbox

I'm just going to start off by saying that I am not the Rachael Ray of happiness. I get it, I've been upset countless, if not hundreds of times and there are many, many instances when I have let negativity creep up into my every day life.

I want to literally smack people on a daily basis but due to my mental strength and understanding that orange isn't my color, I talk myself out it every time.

But so many people fail too and that saddens me. So many people walk around living knee deep in their pile of misery so much so that they continuously try to bring people down with them. It's genuinely heartbreaking.

Have you ever went through a celebrities comments? Have you ever scrolled down some famous IGers and saw the last comment posted and it's all about them being fat, too much makeup, their a whore, he's ugly, etc. etc. What could possibly make any human being comment on someones post that they do not know whether it be someone with 100 followers or 100 million followers mind-boggles the crap out of me.

So I figured it out, misery isn't just a state of mind. It can't be because even while smiling and laughing people post negative comments, talk shit about other people and live their life dedicated to putting others down. I realized that misery is a way of life. And it's so easy to go from temporary misery to a miserable person.

And before you think it's the same thing, it is not. Temporary misery is a bad breakup and then seeing couples kiss makes you want to rip teddy bear's heads off. Temporary misery is when you've been craving ice cream from McDonalds and their damn machine is broken and you again, want to rip off teddy bear heads. Temporary misery is temporary bouts of anger. Temporary misery is temporary depression from a traumatic event. Temporary misery is just that, temporary. It's not meant to be forever and every single human being has suffered from it once in their lives.
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But a miserable person.. oh they're far gone. They can have everything, a perfect job, a perfect spouse and an all around perfect everything and still be fucking miserable. Those peoples personalities have adjusted to the happiness they take in the destruction of others. It's a personality trait they they learn from a combination of jealousy, dissatisfaction and all around shitty personality. It's not that they're sociopaths because they do have feelings, if anything too many feelings.

These people are the ones that always have a negative opinion but God forbid you criticize them, they couldn't take it. These are the people who when meeting another person say what's wrong with them before ever saying something good about them. These are some of your friends who will let you leave the house looking a hot mess on a night out but never compliment you on the nights you look good. These are the people who constantly post about how happy they are instead of being actually happy. These are people that are our family members, our friends and often are acquaintances. These are people that you can't help, they are who they are and the only thing you can do for them is pray they get better from their own selves.

Now you're probably wondering why I'm writing about miserable people, well.. it's because it's so easy to become one of them and so hard to stop once you are. It's like a drug, you let it consume you to a point of no return. You let negative comments and opinions guide you away from what you want and who you are. You let people manipulate you in seeing the world from their negative point of view. You let people dominate you and make you believe things that are simply not true. And last but not least you let the world around, the problems and situations that have arouse in your life to let you stop seeing the light and wallow in the darkness, so much so that when you finally get what you want, you are unhappy, ungrateful and undeserving.

And to answer your question of why I'm writing about this, well recently I was going through my comments on instagram and I realized I had so many people I didn't know whether it was a fake page or a real person saying such awful, negative and sometimes disgusting things to me that made no sense. From posts about happiness to selfies I've taken, negative comments galore. I also recently had someone show me what they really thought of me when I have been nothing but nice to them. And last but not least, I recently dealt with an abundance of negative energy, negative people and negative thoughts that almost consumed me.

And that's when I realized that I will not, under any circumstances let the hate others have for themselves change how I feel about myself.

Listen to me my little minions, don't you ever let some John or Jane Doe make you feel like shit because they're assholes. Don't let someone posting something negative under a status of a new job or a post of positivity sway you from how happy you are. Don't let anyone and I mean anyone whether it's your own family ever guide you into a dark path that will eventually change the person you are. Don't let anyone tell you, you're too nice, too positive, too outgoing, too happy, too abso-fucking-lutely anything. Don't let anyone change the good heart you have because they live in their own dungeon of misery.

It is not your place to change the views of others and to make them happy. It is not your job to relate to their bullshit, to understand their unhappiness or to let it affect you in any way. When someone criticizes something that you're happy about, don't be afraid to tell them to stop, it is your life, their opinion was not warranted nor requested. Don't be afraid to cut people off without an explanation and do not be afraid to leave where you don't want to be. Don't ever compromise your mental health for anyone or any reason at all.

Don't.

Don't be those people under celebrities comments because even though you're not writing them, you may be one of the people that's commenting on it, spending your lives talking about people you don't know or worse, those you do. Don't be the shit talker, don't be the hater and don't be the person that's so obsessed with other people's lives that you stop living your own.

Because remember my littles, you are the creator and destroyer of your own happiness. Don't let someone convince you that you are your worst enemy so much so that you actually become it, when in reality you're looking them in the face.

Remember, it's okay to be happy even when others are not.

So don't be scared to let them go, let it go and let God.

xo
Binch